21 Mistakes Caregivers Make & How to Avoid Them: Solutions and Strategies to Reduce Stress and Increase Happiness
by Toni Claire Gitles
Most of us are untrained in caring for a family member. Toni Gitles draws from her experience as a caregiver and caregiving consultant. Caregiving should be considered a life event like getting married, having children, establishing a career, and planning for retirement.Whether you are currently a caregiver or not, chances are you will likely be a caregiver someday. Even if you have planned carefully and have siblings, the reality is that one person has the burden of caregiving, which can be overwhelming. While every person’s situation is different, the combination of frustration, stress, worry, and a steep learning curve is common. Caregiving, whether short-term or long-term, interferes with work and family commitments and relationships, forces you to rearrange priorities and leisure time, may cause financial hardship and can result in health issues and even death for the caregiver.
Over 53 million people in the United States are caregiving (“Caregiving in the U.S. 2020” by AARP and The National Alliance for Caregiving). Everyone needs to prepare for and learn about the caregiving journey so that when the crisis occurs, whether you or a family member, a loved one is prepared to step in and advocate, support, and bring essential information to the situation. There is no reason to see life as over; you can still be happy and celebrate.
In this book, you will learn 21 common mistakes caregivers make and the solutions and strategies that will save the family caregiver time, energy, and heartache. You will learn about principles and practices that will transform the caregiving journey into an experience of connection, confidence, and discovery.
- Not having health information before a crisis
- Not cultivating a positive mindset about caregiving
- Not asking for help from family and friends
- Not creating a supportive community
- Not prioritizing self-care
- Putting happiness on hold
- Abandoning a spiritual or religious practice
- Undervaluing love in the relationship
Thanks for writing your book and being a consultant. Your comprehensive manual will save people a lot of time and heartache.
—Jack Canfield, Author and Speaker, Co-creator of the best-selling Chicken Soup for the Soul ® series and Co-author of The Success Principles ™
Toni Gitles has a unique “street smarts” approach to caregiving that will allow you to experience greater depths of compassion, hope, and joy. Buy her book now!
—Steve Harrison, Co-founder of www.AuthorSuccess.com
I am very grateful that Toni Gitles has written 21 Mistakes Caregivers Make & How to Avoid Them, which provides an exceptional reference guide with in-depth, informative descriptions, amazing insights, action plans, and stories that will benefit many current and future caregivers. Her expertise and dedicated talents to help others have been of direct benefit to me while working with me through my wife’s dementia journey. In addition, Toni has been highly instructive in my role as a facilitator for a men’s support group caring for loved ones with dementia. I am confident that all who read this book will improve their caregiving skills.
—Dennis Dulniak, Ed.D., Caregiver, Care Partner, and Founder of Nana’s Books Foundation and Central Florida Dementia-friendly Dining